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Jan 02, 2009, 07:13AM

The Life of the Wife

Because husbands work, they deserve sexual attention.

This guy is serious;

2. Why would a loving, wise woman allow mood to determine whether or not she will give her husband one of the most important expressions of love she can show him? What else in life, of such significance, do we allow to be governed by mood? What if your husband woke up one day and announced that he was not in the mood to go to work? If this happened a few times a year, any wife would have sympathy for her hardworking husband.

But what if this happened as often as many wives announce that they are not in the mood to have sex? Most women would gradually stop respecting and therefore eventually stop loving such a man.What woman would love a man who was so governed by feelings and moods that he allowed them to determine whether he would do something as important as go to work?

Why do we assume that it is terribly irresponsible for a man to refuse to go to work because he is not in the mood, but a woman can -- indeed, ought to -- refuse sex because she is not in the mood? Why?

 

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  • i think this guy is really, really not getting any.

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  • Ugh, this guy is such a schmuck. Sex is not a job, and it's certainly not an obligation. To quote Tom Perrotta, some people enjoy it. Those people see the connection between mood and sex (they call it being "in the mood" for a reason: if you don't feel like having sex, then any sex that you have probably isn't going to be enjoyable). Those very same people realise that sex is enjoyable when both people are into it, and both people are getting pleasure out of it, not when one person is "giving herself" to the other out of wifely duty. So no, there's no comparison between a man who doesn't feel like going to work to support his family and a woman who doesn't feel like having sex. Prager also gets extra sexism points for his assumption that the woman isn't also getting up and going to work in the morning. Schumck.

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  • I've known more than one married man who strayed from his wife not only because she never wanted to have sex, but because her refusal left him feeling both unlovable and unappreciated. Read the book, "The Five Love Languages" by Dr. Gary Chapman. Men are more likely than women to express love through sex and physical touch so when they're shunned by their wife, they get the message that she doesn't love him, even though she may have said those exact words in her refusal. This leaves the man primed for the plucking by the stereotypical "other woman" who will make him feel loved, desired, understood and respected.

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